Whether you are in a romantic relationship this Valentine’s Day or not, the thought of it often comes with a lot of pressure and expectation about what the day should look like. We have been conditioned to look outside of ourselves for all of the really important things in life, especially pure unconditional love. My belief is that until we become our own steady source of love, we will find ourselves in the wrong relationships looking to someone else to give us all of the things that we have not yet been able to give to ourselves.
This Valentine’s Day, I invite you to put your focus on the relationship that you have with yourself and not rely on any outer circumstance or person to dictate or determine the course of your day. Give yourself all of the things that you wish to receive or experience on this or any day. It’s exquisite how when we start valuing ourselves fully, the people in our lives naturally start to show up in a different way by also recognizing our worth. It’s time to start giving yourself permission to bask in the beautiful brilliance that is you and to treat yourself to all of the magnificence that you long for and deserve. Try out one or all of these ideas and see which ones resonate with you.
How to practice self love this Valentine’s Day:
Commit to changing the way you have moved through your relationships in the past. Challenge what hasn’t worked so far and actively commit to understanding who you need to be to love yourself fully and to attract a partner who can also love you for your authentic self.
Excuse yourself for all the times that you may have lost a part of yourself to find another. Deeply forgiving past mistakes and misjudgments in your past relationships will help you cultivate an open heart that is ready for new experiences.
Take time to check in with yourself and to connect to whatever it is that you need to be, feel, or do in that moment. This will set the tone for your day and activate a presence of love that you can carry with you always.
Create a mantra
We all have an ongoing internal script within ourselves that we sometimes aren’t even aware of. Become mindful of your inner voice and guide it to choose loving messages whenever the negativity starts to creep in. Some empowering mantras are: “I love and accept myself always” or “Self love is my birthright” or “I am valuable.”
Being selective about what food you choose to nourish your body with is one of the most important forms of self love. Know how your food choices affect you and select the ones that create the highest form of energy, comfort and delight in your body.
Write yourself a love note
Take some time to write down all of the things that you love about yourself. Fight the urge to point out your flaws. Your self doubt muscle may be stronger than your self love muscle at the moment, but focusing on your strengths and your gifts will fuel your mission to create more appreciation and gratitude for yourself.
Always remember to indulge in things that create passion and excitement in your life. These are the things that fuel you to always function at optimum levels and flood you with good energy. Whether it is a great book or a walk in nature, be sure to set this valuable time aside for yourself.
Never underestimate the power and value in nurturing the relationship that you have with yourself. Self love breathes light into every corner of your life and is key in creating healthy and lasting relationships with others. So write yourself that beautiful love note, buy yourself your favorite flowers and honor the time you have set aside to honor, love and care for yourself.
Melody Pourmoradi is a women’s wellness and lifestyle coach at Life Evolutions Coaching. Learn more about her services at www.lifeevolutionscoaching.com.