Ever notice how sometimes we suck all the fun and joy out of a momentous life event by either overthinking, over-planning, or overdoing it? Whether it’s a wedding, a holiday get together or even a child’s birthday party, reconnecting with the true meaning of such a milestone occasion is a sure way to stay on path and commit to enjoying the process. The goal is not to breathe a sigh of relief when the event is over, but to be present and enjoy it every step of the way.
Set Your Intentions
What is the reason that you are planning a celebration in the first place? This seems like a very simple question but can really serve as an anchor to help you keep on path when creating your special event. For example, when planning a wedding, remember that the whole sentiment behind it is to celebrate and honor the union of two people and their forthcoming marriage. This will help to transfer the emphasis from the less important details of your wedding to the more meaningful variables. The caliber of flowers, the color of the tablecloths and all the caviar in the world cannot not replace the energy of love, alignment and joy that comes from a couple uniting while being surrounded by their loved ones.
Focus On The Feelings
What is the feeling that you are trying to create in planning your special occasion? Instead of focusing on a specific goal when you are in the process, become aware of the feelings that you are wanting to call forth. Planning a baby naming for your newborn? My hope is that you will want to feel joy, comfort and delight throughout the planning process and during the event itself. The last thing we want is to feel is stressed, overworked and unhappy. Consciously stay connected to the feelings you want to experience and you will naturally give yourself permission to enjoy the fruits of your labor and stay in tune with the true gifts of this experience.
Drop The Comparison Game
Who is this party really for? Is it for you, or for those around you? Nothing can rob us of our joy in any situation as much as comparing ourselves to those around us. Trying to one- up or outshine another person’s event is counterintuitive and will only leave you with an event that misrepresents you and your values. In planning bar mitzvah or a sweet 16 for your child, refrain from the urge to look at how somebody else has chosen to celebrate their child. Keep the focus on your own child and how to best celebrate their right of passage in a way that is within your means and meaningful to your family.