How To Support Friends Faced With Infertility

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Melody_AApril 24-30 is Infertility Awareness Week. In honor of spreading awareness and support for those struggling with this painful challenge, I wrote an article that is very close to my own heart. I hope it serves you well and gives you a glimpse into how to best be there for anyone you know struggling with infertility.

Supporting the people you love through life’s more challenging experiences—such as the struggle with infertility—requires being especially thoughtful and mindful of the words and actions that are meant to show care and empathy. Saying “the wrong thing,” as well intended as it can be, can too often cause additional pain and suffering to those couples trying so hard to conceive a child. Here are some tips that I use with my clients and their families on how to shift your support from a state of helplessness to a space of helpfulness.

Honor Their Privacy

Know that the subject of baby-making is a very personal one and hold back from asking questions like “Are you pregnant yet?” Unfortunately, fertility treatments and protocols are emotionally and physically taxing and don’t always reap the success that we hope they do immediately, if at all. This question puts a great deal of pressure on your loved ones, in a process that they ultimately have zero control over.

Stay Conscious of Your Words

Refrain from telling your friends that if they relax, they will conceive. Babies are conceived in times of war, among starving populations and under other immensely stressful situations. This theory implies that they are somehow at fault for not having been able to conceive a child, causing them to feel like they are somehow to blame for their misfortune. Advising them to adopt is another piece of advice you should steer clear of. Adoption is a beautiful way to grow a family but clearly not the chosen path for your family member or friend who is struggling with infertility. Furthermore, it is a very challenging and emotional process in and of itself, and is not a comforting option for a couple who hopes to conceive biologically.

Give Them Space

Try to be understanding of your loved one’s situation by excusing them from participating in your celebratory events. Although they are happy and excited for you, they are simply not in an emotional space for celebrating much of anything. Extend your invitation to them so they feel included and give them the space to decide if joining in on your festivities will be their best option at this moment.

Extend Your Support

Do let them know that you are there for them to support them in any way they may need you to. Ask them to take the lead in communicating what that looks like for them. This is very individual and can greatly very from person to person. For some, support means not asking them to get together for an extended period of time. For others, it is a check-in text or phone call every week to let them know you are thinking of them and sending your love. Let them set the tone.

Although being there for your friends who are struggling with fertility won’t cure them of their struggles, using a mindful and thoughtful approach to supporting them can give them a great deal of peace in an otherwise heartbreaking and isolating journey.

Melody Pourmoradi

Melody Pourmoradi is a women’s wellness and lifestyle coach at Life Evolutions Coaching. Learn more about her services at www.lifeevolutionscoaching.com.

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